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I have to say that affirmations are a personal favorite manifesting tool. Once you start to use affirmations, you realize just how easy they are, and what an affect they can have on your life.

An affirmation is simply a positive statement. You can create an affirmation about just about anything — from your relationships, career, money/abundance, home, creativity, success and any other issue you could imagine. We all have different desires and your affirmations are certainly going to be different from someone else’s.

But most importantly, affirmations are not just about achieving your intentions.

Affirmations can be about changing the negative beliefs that have stood in the way of your being able to manifest your heart’s desire for so long. If there is something that you have longed to manifest and you are having trouble creating it, using an affirmation to help change your beliefs can have a powerful effect. We talk to ourselves in so many ways. Just think of how many things others have said to us that we “carry” around with us: our parents, friends, coworkers and teachers. These things they have said have shaped how we react to the world around us. By changing these beliefs, we have the power to change our reaction to the world around us and change what the world gives us. It is an amazing, mind-blowing thought for many.

Just think if your teachers always said “you are not good in math” then you probably have thought that math was not a good subject for you. You also have probably not given it a lot of energy. By creating an affirmation “I have strong mathematical ability” you can open a deeper awareness to your own potential to do mathematical problems. You probably aren’t as challenged in math as you think you are, but by thinking you are, you make it much more difficult than it could be. Using an affirmation helps to change this belief.

They say that it takes twenty-one days for a habit to become part of your life. So saying your affirmations on a regular basis can only benefit you. There is no hard and fast rule about saying them for twenty-one days. You may find some of them you need to say for much longer periods and others you need to say for shorter periods. Say an affirmation for as long as you feel you need to. It is best to say an affirmation several times in one sitting and to say it several times each day. This helps it to truly sink into your conscious, subconscious and every level.

All affirmations need to be positive statements as if the situation is occurring right now. So it is not that something is coming to you, it is as if it is happening now or has already happened. So if you want to be pregnant you do not affirm “I will get pregnant” you affirm “I am pregnant.” Affirmations do not need to be long to be successful. The best affirmations are phrases that are comfortable for you to say. If an affirmation is too long then you may get tired of saying it. It needs to be language that you would comfortably use in your daily life. Take the time to word your affirmations so they best suit your needs.

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Keyword tags: law of attraction,abraham hicks,attraction,spiritual,meditation,self help,the secret,affirmations

Love is absolutely essential in life. Love manifests happiness. To manifest love relationships in your life, or to even overcome the hatred and aloofness between relations, either between the husband and the wife, or other relatives, friends, and colleagues, and turn the negative vibrations of hatred or aloofness into attraction, love, and respect, one needs to do some introspection first.

The law of attraction works on the principles of like attracts like. So, you need to first remove any negative thought patterns that could be present in your mind. To attract love in your life, you must first love yourself! By doing this, you are essentially creating the vibrations of love in your life. These vibrations are needed to attract like vibrations — love.

Look for any good traits in you. Note them down. Remind yourself often that you are a good and attractive person. Look into the mirror and find a loving and attractive person’s image in it. Convince yourself that you are becoming more attractive and confident person. Look for any negative traits and begin replacing them with the good traits. Tell yourself constantly and believe that you are a worthy person and are capable of attracting the right person in your life who will love and respect you. As you are convinced by these powerful loving thoughts, your subconscious mind, which believes and acts upon what you believe, begins the process of changing yourself!

The human mind, also known as the conscious mind, can influence the subconscious mind to change situations! The subconscious mind can be programmed to improve your image. You can easily change yourself into becoming an attractive person and can help you attract and hold love in your life. Like attracts like! This principle of the law of attraction works on the subconscious level. Properly programmed, this law can restructure your electromagnetic patterns and turn you into an irresistible person.

Think that you are constantly engulfed in a powerful bubble of love and protection. Visualize that this bubble is vibrating with your soul’s vibrations. Also visualize that this bubble is so powerful that it constantly cleanses your mind and body of the negative traits, and has the power to attract only positive vibrations of every kind. The law of attraction works wonderfully when the subconscious mind is convinced. Do not use forceful thoughts while you are convincing yourself. The thought flow should be very smooth and you should observe extreme calmness backed with complete faith in your conversation with your subconscious mind.

Feel that you’re constantly sending out good and positive vibrations in all directions. Feel that these vibrations are filled with love and compassion for all. Visualize that these vibrations are engulfing every person that you meet. Faithfully believe that the positive force that surrounds you makes you irresistible to others.

To attract love in your life, write down the qualities that you are seeking. Believe that the person already exists, and destiny will bring you both together in due time, and you’ll meet this lovely person very soon. You’ll be amazed one day that you have attracted a person who possesses the exact qualities you desired! Your subconscious mind has the ability to attract the ideal person in your life if you let your subconscious mind know what you desire. Do not doubt the subconscious mind’s ability to work wonders!

The method absolutely can manifest love relationships and can attract the ideal person in your life who will love you intensely and make you both very happy.

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Manifesting Reality Isn’t Hard Work After All. Get your free report on manifesting miracles right now by visiting: http://www.ManifestMiracle.com/free/

Keyword tags: law of attraction,abraham hicks,attraction,spiritual,meditation,self help,the secret

Nothing is impossible to the believer! Jesus was probably the first man who taught this mystical theory to the masses. Bible provides us with many instances of Jesus himself practicing the art of creative visualization and imaging, and using the law of attraction in the most astonishing way! Bible is the most followed book today. These principles are the incorporeal pure energies that are inherent within the subconscious of humans, and also are the universal forces that govern mind and matter. A believer can attract the things that are desires through the same principles of the law of attraction, using the tools that are easily available to him — creative visualization, imaging, and powers of the subconscious mind. For ages, the wise of the ancient civilizations practiced these metaphysical sciences.

The followers of the law of attraction use the power of creative visualization to manifest things that are desired by their mind. They use meditation to charge these powers, to generate pure energy force fields, and use visualization and imaging techniques as tools enabling them to use the law of attraction in the most creative way. Their highly disciplined subconscious mind easily understands every necessary step required and is capable of activating these mysterious and mystical forces.

Every human being has the latent power to invoke these higher energies through their subconscious mind and can attract things they desire. It is through the divine will that only a few can really use the complete power of the forces that are available to everyone. Still, to manifest simpler desires, anyone can use the power to attract results. Attracting more money, love, health, recognition, and even getting a job are the lesser desires of humans that can be easily manifested through the gentler use of the law of attraction techniques, while self-realization and the pure knowledge of the ultimate Truth can be availed only by the master practitioners of these energetic forces.

Law of attraction followers use these visualization principles and techniques to materialize their desires into existence. Like attracts like! This is the principle of the law of attraction. The subconscious mind understands no difference between the real and the myth. It understands no difference between the good and the bad and also between the existing and the non-existing. But it possesses the hyper intelligence that can materialize the conscious mind’s desires.

The follower of the law of attraction uses repeated and very gentle influence through visualization and meditation over the subconscious mind to manifest the desires of the mind into existence in the outer world. Visualization sets higher energies into creative actions. During visualization, the entire future depiction of the things desired are “seen” by the mind, and faithfully believed by the subconscious mind that the desires shall manifest in future. Any doubt in the entire process can stop the process entirely, or in the worst case, can create a negative effect. Hence, even as the powers are so easily available to the masses, they cannot not see materialization of their visualization efforts. Indeed, not effort or doubt, but complete gentleness and belief, and creative visualization methods are required to put powerful forces into action to materialize their desires.

About the Author:
Manifesting Reality Isn’t Hard Work After All. Get your free report on manifesting miracles right now by visiting: http://www.ManifestMiracle.com/free/

Keyword tags: law of attraction,abraham hicks,attraction,spiritual,meditation,self help,the secret

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by fear – so much so that it prevented you from doing something you wanted to do? Believe it or not, this is a common problem faced by many people daily.

Fear has the power to hold you back from taking risks, following your dreams, or becoming successful at anything you attempt to do. If you allow it to control you for long enough, it can eventually erode your quality of life and keep you locked in a prison of inactivity.

What many people fail to realize is that fear is nothing more than a conditioned response. It’s a natural reaction to a frightening or unfamiliar situation. While it is usually automatic, there are things you can do to overcome it.

1) Check your expectations.

One major contributor of fear is the prevalence of negative expectations. Do you usually find yourself expecting the worst in every situation? Do you worry obsessively about what could go wrong, rather than focusing on your strengths and capabilities?

If you make a conscious effort to expect the best, see the positive side of each situation and keep reminding yourself that you can handle more than you often think, you’ll find yourself with much less fear to deal with. Even if feelings of fear do manage to creep into your consciousness, you’ll still be able to keep them in perspective and balance them against an underlying sense of confidence.

2) Discredit your fears.

Experts will tell you that the majority of things you fear will never come to pass anyway. While this may be true, it sure doesn’t feel that way when fear has a chokehold on you! However, if you look a little more closely at your fears when they arise, you may be able to dismiss at least a few.

For example, if you have a fear of public speaking and your boss wants you to give a presentation at work, you might feel like your life (and perhaps your livelihood) is on the line. You may fear getting fired, or worry that your colleagues will lose respect for you if you don’t do a good job.

But is any of this likely to happen? In most cases, no. Rather than worrying about what “might” happen if you don’t give a solid presentation, you might brainstorm ways to help improve your performance, such as being well prepared, practicing your delivery on friends and family members, writing notes to yourself and so on.

3) Do the very thing you fear.

When you remember that fear is simply a feeling, it loses much of its power. It can’t harm you and except in truly threatening situations you can choose to ignore it and move forward anyway.

If you weigh the pros and cons in any situation, you may decide that the possibility of negative consequences is minimal so there’s nothing to stop you from ignoring your fear and going for it! This will be determined by you on a case by case basis, of course. The point isn’t to become reckless with your decision-making but rather to empower yourself to know when a fear is groundless and easily overcome.

Most fears are not real, but are perceived and are driven by our beliefs and resulting emotions. Do yourself a favor and challenge your thinking. Don’t assume your emotions have analyzed all the facts and have come up with a rational conclusion. Assume that your emotions have no intelligence of their own and that they are reacting to something they “perceive” as threatening and not something necessarily based on reality.

Don’t underestimate your ability to press through your fears. Take one small step in the direction of freedom and then another and another. Be proactive and determined to uncover the truth of the matter and avoid buying into some assumed, perceived reaction based on your erroneous beliefs and emotions.

About the Author:
Daryl Daughtry, CBC, CBT, is a certified life coach, author and speaker. Visit his blog at http://daughtry.posterous.com and his brand new self help membership site at http://www.LifeNotepad.com .

Keyword tags: self help, bad habits, goal setting, life purpose, mindset, thinking, personal development

This article is about learning how to date successfully, not about the clothes you wear, your attitude, acting your age, hairstyles or any other physical or social trait. It’s about YOU, and learning how to define a healthy relationship based on your desires and needs. It’s about attracting people and situations that are fulfilling to your spirit, and recognizing that you have unlimited options. It’s about learning how to change old patterns so that you can define life on your own terms.

Dating provokes a wide spectrum of emotions, ranging from excitement and giddiness to disappointment and frustration, which means starting a new relationship, requires that we take a leap of faith. We have to trust that our instincts will attract the right person, who offers qualities that will create lasting happiness in our lives. It’s often a slippery slope for many of us though. Making the right choices or finding ‘true love’ can cause more frustration than peace. Reading romance novels, talking to friends and watching movies only add to our confusion. We find that our instincts aren’t always the best choice, so we allow concepts such as the proverbial white picket fence to guide us through the process.

Decades ago, a white picket fence in the burbs became a status symbol by a wealthier sect of society to represent success, good fortune, and love. It was an ideal many people strove to achieve. Along the way we learned to adopt these external qualities into our relationship model, as well as our parents’ (or caregivers’) patterns, behaviors and decision-making skills, while neglecting our inner voice or spirit. We’re never shown how to define love for ourselves, so we add these outside factors into our own formula, which oftentimes perpetuate our frustration of not being able to date successfully or find Mr. or Miss Right. Instead, we learn by trial and error, and in some instances we just give up trying altogether.

To attract the right person you have to figure out not only what you desire but also who you are. A basic rule in the Law of Attraction states that the world will change around you as you change the world within you. Unfortunately, this is a catch 22 in personal development. Unless you’re given the tools to succeed, you’ll continue down the road most traveled. After you spend the time defining what you do want, you may find that a white picket fence isn’t a characteristic you really want. To create a new relationship model for yourself, it’s important to debunk a few distracting societal myths so you can begin with a clean slate.

Romantic Myth Buster #1: You control who you date.

I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news but as I mentioned earlier, unless you do a little self-discovery you’ll typically attract someone that fits a pattern you observed in your parents. It’s true. Before man could write, humans survived for thousands of years mimicking roles and behaviors, which became heavily ingrained in our species. It’s why young adults find themselves in carbon copy relationships that their parents warned them to avoid.

Romantic Myth Buster #2: It’s too late to change.

This is 100%, unequivocally, absolutely untrue. Most of the time, we just don’t know any better, so we gravitate towards a pattern, dynamic, or role that we learned as a means to survive. You can change if you want to, but the trick is to know who you want to change into. The Universe, God, or whom or whatever you believe in can only respond to the clarity of your intentions. If your intentions are hazy then so will the results.

Romantic Myth Buster #3: Movies, history and literature are a good template for romance.

Movies can be a real bitch on your love life because many of the depicted love stories are simple fiction. This means that if you haven’t spent the time defining what you DO want, it’s easy to fall prey to the idyllic and romanticized images seen in movies, which are meant to entertain people.

Historical and literary references such as Romeo & Juliet, or Antony and Cleopatra can also be very damaging to your perception of what a romance should be. Keep in mind, both of these examples ended in double suicide, which while great for dramatic effect, hardly inspirational. Many of these images depict love as desperate, unwavering, and high in DRAMA. My guess is that these qualities aren’t exactly what you’d want to bring home to meet mother.

Romantic Myth Buster #4: ‘THE ONE’ is out there.

Ok, this particular topic makes me feel as if I’m treading a thick bowl of tapioca because the concept of finding ‘The One’ has become deeply ingrained in our culture. What I will say though, is that unless you know yourself, it will be harder to attract the idea of ‘The One’ or the perfect partner. In other words, your perfect partner will be easier to find once you know your perfect self. It’s also important to understand that while this idea offers possibility and hope, it also provokes a tremendous level of idealistic expectation, which as you know, can only bring disappointment. My advice is to spend some time defining what you DO want, so that you dramatically improve your chances of attracting your ideal mate.

Romantic Myth Buster #5: Self-discovery is easy.

I’ll probably catch some slack for this too, but the truth is that self-discovery and change can be very difficult. You have to be committed and willing to put the time and effort into figuring out what color YOUR picket fence may be, or more broadly what your relationship model looks like. Our culture is taught more to follow than to lead and be daring, which is necessary to evolve and grow. If you’re dedicated to attracting fulfilling relationships, you must commit to self-discovery; otherwise you’ll continue down the road most traveled. It may not be the magic pill you hoped to hear but it will produce the results you’re looking to achieve.

Here are two exercises you can do to change your life, and attract the type of relationships you want. First, define a set of personal beliefs, ethics or guiding principles. Great men such as Aristotle and Benjamin Franklin developed their core values as a template to guide their actions and decisions. They believed that to create a fulfilling life, one has to first define it on a personal level. In other words, you can have the life you want, once you know what you’re seeking. Second, define your relationship model. Finding the right partner requires that you define the qualities that he/she will demonstrate. Make a list of reciprocal qualities, ones that you’re both responsible for bringing to the relationship. Be thorough and true to yourself. The combination of those two exercises will become the foundation to attracting the people and situations you want. Once complete, read these items every morning to yourself so you can absorb, live, breathe them.

About the Author:
Joseph Stuczynski is a motivational speaker, workshop facilitator, transformational coach and founder/author of “Living and Loving Well”, a powerful 4-step method that develops one’s core values as a foundation for creating positive life changes. Visit our website at http://www.livingandlovingwell.com

Keyword tags: dating, relationships, soulmate, self help, self improvement, better relationships,