Mental Moments

Archive for August, 2008

There must be a reason why some people can just handle all the tasks that are thrown at them. They can handle the urgent items on their to do lists, the unexpected project changes that show up and even their personal commitments.

The reason these people can easily succeed in what they put their eyes on, get the important stuff done and enjoy time with their families is because they have mastered the art of time management.

Wouldn’t you like to know how they do it?

Would you like to know how you too can manage your time easily?

Here are just 3 of the most powerful techniques that these people use.

Some of the strategies may sound like “common sense” to you, but please don’t just ignore them, use them and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the effectiveness of these strategies – even the ones that sound like common sense.

Time Management Strategy 1:
Gaining Clarity

Most people stress out and can’t seem to figure out what they are doing, why they’re doing it and what the most important thing they need to do is. The reason for this painful overwhelm is the fact that most people don’t spend time gaining clarity.

Clarity is an important prerequisite for productivity. If you are not clear, you are not going to have a highly productive day.

Here’s why – when you are not clear, your mind is still running out trying to find solutions to all the other problems or issues that you are facing and so it’s easy for you to stress out.

The easiest way to boost productivity is to gain clarity.

Ask yourself

1. What are all the things that need to get done?

2. What are the goals I have?

3. What’s the priority level of each goal? Read the rest of this entry »

Most people think of the brain as the core of a human being, housing emotions, memories and thoughts, and controlling all bodily functions. But consider this:

* The heart generates 60-to-1000 times more power and electromagnetic energy than the brain, making by far it the most powerful organ in the human body.

* When a fetus is in the womb, its heart forms first, before the brain.

* If the heart’s connection to the brain were severed, it would keep right on beating, pumping blood to the rest of the body. No other organs are capable of this.

It is your heart that defines you. Your heart is the core of your being, not your brain.

In the 1970s, a new branch of medicine called neurocardiology was created when scientists discovered that the heart has its own elaborate nervous system. It sends information to the brain and the body with each and every heartbeat.

Fascinating new research proves the heart produces a powerful magnetic field that extends out from the body up to twelve feet in diameter. Using sophisticated magnetic measuring devices, scientists have shown that when one person is feeling love or affection for another person, their heart-waves become instantly measurable in the brain-waves of the other person.

It appears the heart has its own powerful and unique intelligence, which tells us that it’s not simply the organ that pumps our blood and keeps us alive. Take the large number of heart transplant recipients who’ve reported incredible changes after transplant surgery. There have been reports of odd new cravings, handwriting changes, musical preferences, and even strange new memories that don’t seem to be their own. These are simply transplanted along with the heart, and the recipient experiences them as if they were his own, just like the heart’s previous owner did.

Scientifically speaking, these cravings, preferences and memories are made of energy, just as all other things around us are. Emotions are no different. Emotions like “heartache” and “heartbreak”, describe the physical sensations that occur in the heart during strong emotional situations; they are made of pure energy, and named after their physical effects on the body. In fact such as “anger”, “grief” and “fear,” often get stuck in the body’s energy field; these are called Trapped Emotions. When Trapped Emotions gather around the heart, they form what is called a Heart-Wall, a protective energetic barrier created by the subconscious mind. Read the rest of this entry »

“All happy people are grateful. Ungrateful people cannot be happy. We tend to think that being unhappy leads people to complain, but it is truer to say that complaining leads to people becoming unhappy.” – Dennis Prager

Take a moment to think about this statement. Have you ever known a happy person who wasn’t grateful, or a grateful person who wasn’t happy? Perhaps a way to look at this is that happiness is a result of gratitude. The wonderful thing about this is that, while we cannot always just choose to be happy, we can always choose to be grateful, which results in happiness. So in a roundabout way, we are choosing happiness when we choose to be grateful.

There is always something to be grateful about. You can be grateful that you are alive and have opportunities to learn and grow and share love. You can be grateful for the sun, the rain, the snow, the beauty of nature, the green of grass, the glory of trees, the color of flowers, the presence of animals, the food you eat. You can be grateful that you have a computer on which to read this article. If you have health, you can be grateful for that. If you have friends, you can be grateful for them. If you have a mate, children, a home, a car, a job, you can be grateful for them. You can choose to be grateful for all the big and little things in life, each and every moment. The more you choose to notice what is good and beautiful, the happier and more peaceful you will feel.

On the other hand, there are always things to complain about if that is your choice. Instead of noticing the beauty of the flowers, you can complain about having to water them. Instead of being grateful for the opportunity to be alive, you can complain about how hard it is. Instead of being grateful for the sun, the rain, or the snow, you can complain about how hot it is, how wet it is, how gloomy it is, or how cold it is. Instead of being grateful for you food you eat, you can complain about how hard it is to cook it, or how expensive it is to buy it. Instead of being grateful for your health, you can complain about your weight. Instead of being grateful for your partner or your children, you can certainly find endless complains about them. The more you complain, the more unhappy you will feel. It is not the person or the situation or the event or the past or anything else that is causing your unhappiness – it is your choice to complain about it instead of discovering what is wonderful about it and being grateful for it.

At any given moment, we each get to choose which part of ourselves we want to express – our ego wounded self who lives in our mind, or true, essential Self who lives in our heart and soul. If you decide to trust your mind over your heart and soul, you will likely find yourself noticing what you don’t like and complaining about it in order to attempt to control it. Complaining is a form of control and the mind believes that if you complain enough, you can have control over getting what you want.

Your true Self, the aspect of you that is connected with your higher Source of love and truth, lives in the present and feels grateful for the opportunity to express love and appreciation for all that is.

The really great thing is that, given that we are beings of free will, we get to choose to who we want to be, each and every moment!

About the Author:
Margaret Paul, Ph.D., best-selling author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You” and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. FREE Inner Bonding course at: http://www.innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available. mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com.

Keyword tags: happiness, joy, complaining, depression, anxiety, personal development, self help, spirituality

Anyone can become a deliberate creator, able to manifest in their universe what they need at the time that they need it. That sounds like a totally mind-blowing statement, but once you understand The Law of Attraction it really is not. We are all attracting people, things and situations through our thoughts, actions and beliefs. By becoming conscious of your thoughts you focus your intent and are able to become a deliberate creator.

Becoming a deliberate creator begins with intent. Intent is a fancy word simply for focus and your thoughts. So if your thought is “I would like a coffee” then you need to focus your entire being on this thought of wanting a coffee. Imagine what it would be like to hold that delicious hot coffee. Enjoy the smells and aroma. Make your visualization powerful; adding every emotion and good thought you can have about how having that coffee would make you feel. Then take a sip! Doesn’t it taste amazing?

To create, you also need to have the belief that you can create. Do you believe that you can have this coffee? Do you believe that it is within your reach? Read the rest of this entry »

The kindest and most compassionate thing you can do for yourself and others is to forgive yourself. We are often told that we should forgive others, the old saying “forgive and forget” is thrown around constantly, so you make an effort to forgive those who you feel have wronged you in some way and you find it almost impossible to do. Why is that? It is possibly because you have not yet learned how to forgive yourself.

In terms of self-help a better saying to use would be “charity begins at home” or in this case charity begins with self. You cannot freely give to the world that which you do not give to yourself. Just as you cannot truly love someone without first loving yourself, you cannot forgive someone without forgiving yourself. When you learn to forgive yourself then and only then will you be able to forgive others. Paradoxically though, when you learn to forgive yourself you will in turn find that you have nothing to forgive others for.

When you forgive yourself you let go of a part of yourself, the part that wants to keep you trapped inside a circle of blame, shame, guilt and fear. This part of you, which essentially is part of your ego, does not want you to be free of it because ego does not want to relinquish control. Free yourself from this viscous pattern of behavior for it has the ability to murder your spirit. It is possible to spend your entire life blaming yourself for this and that, feeling guilty because you did this or that and living in fear of the consequences of this and that. This way of living has you immobilized because you are dwelling in the past (the guilt and blame for what has been) and you cannot enjoy your future (for fear of the consequences of what has been). There is only on solution, you must give yourself the ultimate gift, the gift of forgiveness.

Self forgiveness is not difficult to master, you only need to simply spend some time thinking over things that you feel badly about, things that you may have said or done to yourself or to others, thank your higher self for allowing you to see that you are in fact imperfect and there will be times when you mess up. Apologize to yourself and let it go. Practice this often, whenever you find yourself beating up on yourself about something you did or did not do, accept that the deed is done and it cannot be undone, forgive yourself and move on to find a solution if necessary, if it something that another action cannot rectify then you must let it go, for it is in fact in the past already and remind yourself that no one can change the past.

This is not meant to relinquish you from responsibility, it in fact making you more responsible, but in a more positive and focused way. Often responsibility is seen as something negative, something to be endured, but being responsible can also be remarkably freeing and in terms of forgiveness if you take responsibility for forgiving yourself you will learn what it is to live without the burden on guilt, blame, fear and shame.

When you have mastered the loving act of forgiving yourself, your heart will then be open to forgiving others. Read the rest of this entry »